I've been thinking about habits a decent amount these last couple weeks. Charlotte Mason was a big believer in establishing good habits in children especially. I, however, have seen how much I am without effective habits in many areas. In the
book I've been reading, it says:
But Charlotte Mason was adamant concerning training in habit. She went as far as to say that almost anything could be accomplished through correct and consistent training...
This discipline is instead training that comprises relationships with oneself, one's world, one's God, and others. The parent and/or teacher supplants the child's weakness or affinity through instruction of conscience and the will, along with deliberate effort, that is often painstaking on behalf of both the child and educator to reach the desired outcome...
The future character and conduct of children depend on the work of enlightened human effort in forming habits along with the work of divine grace more than anything else. The children will have habits, and we as parents and educators are engaged in forming these habits actively or passively every day, every hour. We cannot escape this fact...
As a classroom educator of more than two decades, I have seen the application of habit as the line that divides the effective student from the ineffective one. The effective student chooses to do what ought to be done and so, when lacking the power, compels himself to do what is best, and acts out of habit.
----I also read a number of months ago a great
book gleaned from Mason's ideas, that was very challenging in this area. For some reason, I was struck more personally this last time I read about habits. I don't know that Dave has noticed this, or that I want to write this down, but I have been working harder at following through on various activities: putting my shoes away, wiping off the table and counters after a meal, cleaning the dishes more promptly, keeping my dresser from being so messy, etc. I figured I needed to get this area of my life in order before I really begin to work on my kids. :) For me, not doing most of those things has to do with a lazy habit of getting to things later on. As I am training myself to follow through, it is becoming easier to choose the best right away.
Wouldn't it be great if we could train our children in a myriad of wonderful habits so they wouldn't struggle to do what should be done the rest of their lives? What a long-term blessing that would be to them, even if they fight it now.
Hannah during her first month, Oct 2001